I’m Angry That You’re Angry

Woman alone in restaurantI observed an argument between two people last week and with little effort, I remained calm and objective. This week I was the one in a disagreement and it wasn’t so easy to stay calm and neutral. I found myself getting angry that the other person was angry.

When someone uses feeling words to describe judgments and assumptions, it may sound like they are talking about their feelings, but they are actually talking about their negative, and often exaggerated thoughts. As a result, we feel judged and often misunderstood. We get angry that they’re angry.

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Is it Love or is it Anxiety?

Couple fightingAre you in an intense, passionate love affair with someone that’s bad for you but you can’t let go? Have you distanced yourself from a friend or family member because their roller-coaster relationship is exhausting and hard to watch? Why does a person insist they can’t live without someone who is clearly making them miserable?

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How to Survive a Verbal Attack

I was in line one day at the airport when a woman arrived late and wasn’t permitted to board. She screamed obscenities at the West Jet representative, startling everyone within earshot. It’s rare to see this kind of verbal attack in public and between strangers; it usually happens at home and with people we love. Continue reading “How to Survive a Verbal Attack”

3 Easy Steps to Self Acceptance

happy womenFor over thirty years self-esteem has been a top priority for educators and therapists. Despite efforts to improve self-esteem, it remains elusive.

Researchers now say we’re pursuing the wrong thing. We need to pursue self-acceptance, not self-esteem, if we want to feel better about ourselves. Continue reading “3 Easy Steps to Self Acceptance”

Your ex is not a Reliable Source of Info About you

This week I’ve had an influx of client’s going through a break-up. It’s heartbreaking because each person turns themselves inside and out agonizing over their ex’s parting gift; a list of all their faults and everything they ever did wrong. Continue reading “Your ex is not a Reliable Source of Info About you”